Review of Adoptee Survival Guide, by Lynn Grubb, et al:

Adoptee Survival Guide Review:

This book isn’t just about how to survive being adopted and overwhelmed by government policies and archaic traditions and practices.  It’s more than that. This compilation of essays is a collective wisdom of many adopted adults from diverse countries, upbringings and educational experiences. These writers together share their personal views on the positive and not-so-positive aspects of growing up adopted and how they view the world. Many nuggets of advice are applicable to all people from any walk of life. For example:  

“You are not your past.”

“Focus on the issues, not the person, because you can never change the person, but you can deal with the issues.”

“Give up the illusion that someone else will make you happy.”

The Adoptee Survival Guide is appropriately titled because by nature, we adopted folk have mad skills in self preservation and adaptation.  Like a chameleon, we blend in when we need to, move quickly, observe quietly and have delicate hearts with cool dispositions.  However, unlike a tiny lizard, this book shows that Adoptees today are learning to bond together, speak out and educate the modern public on what it’s like to grow up as a product of both nature and nurture with conflicting feelings and unanswered questions about our lives, which non-adopted people often take for granted.  

The diverse writings in this book are honest, entertaining and enlightening as they address a subject not often discussed or well-understood in this society.  The Adoptee Survival Guide eliminates the labels adopted people have been assigned, such as “happy”, “grateful” and “angry”. If anything, it shows that adopted adults today strive to be known as inquisitive, educated, outspoken and reflective.  

I am proud to be a contributing author in this unique anthology, which is fantastic reading for all members of the adoption constellation plus associated family members, professionals in social work, family court systems, education and other areas of child care and development. 

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